Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Changes

In addition to my most recent “break,” I mentioned in my April 15th post that I was dealing with matters that would prevent me from posting regularly.

All true. I was (and still am) helping a friend through a rough time.

What I did not say and would not say at that time is that I too am going through a difficult period in my life.

My children were not aware of this. Two of them were in the midst of final exams. My eldest was away. They had to be informed before other family members and friends were told.

They are all home now. And they know. Their parents have separated.

The only thing I am prepared to say at this time regarding such a private family matter is that I did not see it coming. And I say this only because I do not want people to think that any prior posts I wrote regarding a happy, loving family were not true. I truly believed we were.

My children are my absolute top priority. To try to minimize the hurt from this devastating blow to their lives is my primary focus now.

Some days are better than others.

But there’s still lots of love around here to help us get through it.



Post Script

I was told there is no need to mention this personal matter on my blog. I disagree. I could not continue blogging without mentioning such a fundamental change to my life. I would feel like a fake if I continued on as though nothing had changed.

Certainly, bloggers do not “tell all” but I believe a basic fundamental honesty is required — and most definitely for the sort of blog I write.

And I don’t want to give this up. Crazy as it may sound, blogging offers support and friendship from a network of wonderful people.

However, posting may be erratic — at best — for who knows how long.

22 comments:

oreneta said...

Oh Beth: How horrible. Oh my. I don't even know what to say, there is nothing I can say that can make any real difference.

I have always enjoyed your blog, and your thoughtfulness and your generosity and integrity that shines through in your writing.

I am so sorry that you are enduring such a nightmare right now...I wish I could help.

My thoughts are with you, be as strong as you can, and be good to yourself.

Oh my dear.

Hugs and hugs and hugs and hugs.

Oh my.

The Guy Who Writes This said...

Take time, Beth. We'll be here for you when you need our support. I'll check in every day.

Diesel said...

Beth, I'm so sorry. Sounds like it totally came out of nowhere. I'll pray for you and your family.

rebecca said...

Beth, I am so, so sorry. I don't know what to say other than I'll be thinking about you. Take care of yourself.

John said...

That is truely an arse event.

Hope all is good in your world soon.

patricia said...

"Arse event". I like that.

Hang in there, Beth. Sending lots of good vibes your way.

Beth said...

aww beth...that is awful. I am asuuming that it wasn't your idea...no wonder you need a break.

And ya, while it is personal, blogging is a way of venting and getting things out that you need to talk about. I kinda blab everything about my life and then think, Oh, maybe I shouldn't have said that. But you know what? That's who we are, and you're my friend and I am feeling for you right now. I wish I was close by...I would bring my Cosmos in a Box and some chocolate and we would sit and vent! :)

Love you and I'm thinking about you and all your life changes.

Princess Pointful said...

Sweetie...
It tells me how much you have touched us through your writing that I should be upset by this.
I'm so sorry- it sounds like this has taken you by surprise, which is probably the hardest part of all.
You are a strong, thoughtful and kind woman who I know will make it through with the support of everyone you've supported throughout the years.
Our thoughts are with you.

Trish said...

Oh Beth hon...{hugs} that was the last thing I was thinking I would hear from you...

Separated? Oh my dear that is horrible. I am so sorry. You've been a wonderful supportive online friend and you are so right about being upfront with your situation...it is your blog after all.

I'll keep checking back to see how you are doing. You have a lot of caring online friends here...

Megan said...

Ahh, my sweet, sweet sister - it must do your heart a world of good to see the number of friends you have who are so supportive. I hope you're not surprised, though. As always, I am here.
Love ya, Z

msp said...

Why am I always the last sister to write? Zig, you stole my thoughts. Beth, I want to say thank you to all your amazing and unique new friends who are being so supportive and thinking of you. To you all, you truly do see my sister the way she really is. It has shocked all of us. Thanks for being there - she is very lucky and you're all so important to her.
"...beneath my wings"

Beth said...

To All:
If I responded to every individual comment (as I usually do) I’d get all teary.
Oh, hell, I’d just plain cry.
Enough of that.
This is a time to be feeling good – a bright spot – for all your supportive, caring words.
They mean a great deal to me – they truly help.
I knew you guys would come through.
Thanks so much.

Dan said...

Beth, I'm very sorry to hear this. You're going through a lot. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Don't worry about blogging. You have other things to attend to.

Hugs.

Dorky Dad said...

Wow. I'm really sorry, Beth, what a tough thing to deal with. I'm going to third that "arse event" comment. That really blows.

I'll be praying for you.

Kerry said...

Hello Beth. I read your blog once in a while, and I just wanted to say I am sorry. What an awful time. My parents separated 4 years ago (I am 27) and though it was really horrible, my sister and I did get through it. So did my mom and dad. And you will too, and so will your (great) kids. I am sending you all the best, along with everyone.

Beth said...

Kerry:
Thank you for leaving a comment - and for sharing your story.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience but it's good to know you made it through...time always helps.

DJ Cayenne said...

I'll add my best wishes as well. We're all pulling for you.

cipriano said...

Beth, you are so often my ray of Hilarity in otherwise Hilarious-less days of Non-hilariosity.
And now, to hear that you are struggling and/or dealing with something that is nothing hilarious whatsoever.... I just want you to know I am thinking of you, and wishing you the very best.
-- Cip

Beth said...

cipriano:
Well, I'll tell ya - it really pisses me off that my "hilarity" factor has plummeted (among other consequences).
I'm working to keep sane and get it back.
Thanks.

Nomad said...

Oh Beth, I have been so busy and just popped in too see if you were ok and I am so surprised and so very very sorry.

I guess I would have to reiterate with everyone else who loves to read you to say that you have touched me too with your wonderful writing, and I feel very sad for you and your family.

Gee I sure wish I could drop by with some coffee and a big box of tissues, and maybe an apple tart, and some...sorry getting carried away, but sure wish I was right next door to make you food and stuff...to help...?

aw sh*t. Men are SUCH DINKS sometimes...

Chin up ...'cause you're awesome!

Nomad said...

Gosh..didn't mean to offend any of the great guy bloggers or the rest of the male population...but no?

Beth said...

nomad:
Your comment made me smile - you're the only one to let it all out...
And, certainly, not all men are "dinks" - the men who have left comments here are fabulous.

And that apple tart? I wish... (My appetite is shot to hell.)