tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post5505701499875561199..comments2023-07-01T11:03:20.380-04:00Comments on BooksEtc.: Eyes Wide OpenBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-57047206434699278042009-01-28T11:17:00.000-05:002009-01-28T11:17:00.000-05:00The cold hard truth is a tough pill to swallow, bu...The cold hard truth is a tough pill to swallow, but sometimes its gotta be done. But nothing wrong with having a chaser of dreams and fantasies to go with it! So don't stop day dreaming, girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-85022134836780392752009-01-27T11:51:00.000-05:002009-01-27T11:51:00.000-05:00My mom is one who live in her own bubble of illusi...My mom is one who live in her own bubble of illusion. The world as she sees it is not the world at all. She's happy, but she's also completely dependent on others to guide her through the real world so she doesn't have to leave her bubble. If my dad passes before she does I honestly don't know how she will survive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-82336552478807340692009-01-27T06:50:00.000-05:002009-01-27T06:50:00.000-05:00patti:Thank you.Apparently I can handle the length...patti:<BR/>Thank you.<BR/>Apparently I can handle the length of a blog post. A story or an article? Many, many enthusiastic starts but no endings. Not sure why. I'm just putting it aside for now. Perhaps some day??Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-44545512861693632672009-01-26T20:45:00.000-05:002009-01-26T20:45:00.000-05:00Beautiful. (If you write like this, how can you b...Beautiful. (If you write like this, how can you be blocked?)Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16725753993440817160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-69324491813292634862009-01-26T02:40:00.000-05:002009-01-26T02:40:00.000-05:00Yes, that is pretty much the advice that I gave he...Yes, that is pretty much the advice that I gave her. After all, she gets hurt over and over again.Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02375981493145612394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-78928746654735287772009-01-25T17:55:00.000-05:002009-01-25T17:55:00.000-05:00lainey-paney:Guilty - and still learning.cheri:Per...lainey-paney:<BR/>Guilty - and still learning.<BR/><BR/>cheri:<BR/>Perhaps not so brave - more out of necessity. And it has helped.<BR/><BR/>jr:<BR/>In other words, we're all human.<BR/><BR/>bee:<BR/>Yes, it's hard but I'm finding that learning to deal with and accept the "hard truth" is making things easier and simpler for me. Turns out, hanging on to those illusions was awfully hard work, too.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-77745590475624077152009-01-25T17:24:00.000-05:002009-01-25T17:24:00.000-05:00This post made me think of many things -- one bein...This post made me think of many things -- one being a conversation that I had with a good friend this morning. At 43, she still believes that her mother will (someday) give her the love/attention/positive feedback/childcare help that she wants and needs. Sadly, all previous experience suggests that this is an illusion that she needs to let go of. But if she does accept that it is an illusion, Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02375981493145612394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-91392818176146294552009-01-25T16:48:00.000-05:002009-01-25T16:48:00.000-05:00You got that right - there's no such thing as wond...You got that right - there's no such thing as wonderful people. We all have our moments. Especially me.JR's Thumbprintshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479324326541901987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-85489175033421784592009-01-25T12:32:00.000-05:002009-01-25T12:32:00.000-05:00I agree that sometimes we see what we want to see,...I agree that sometimes we see what we want to see, as opposed to "true colors", reality, etc.Lainey-Paneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07722187515774744428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-41884452413227949692009-01-25T09:14:00.000-05:002009-01-25T09:14:00.000-05:00trish:It hurts to lose a friendship - even more so...trish:<BR/>It hurts to lose a friendship - even more so when we realize much of the fault lies within ourselves.<BR/>Exhausting? At times, very much so.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-83930137361943832402009-01-25T08:53:00.000-05:002009-01-25T08:53:00.000-05:00Oh gosh . . . I had to read that passage a couple ...Oh gosh . . . I had to read that passage a couple of times about believing some people to be perfect, because it sums up exactly the recent loss of a friendship. Ouch is right . . . it was my unrealistic expectations that set it up for failure and I have no one to blame but myself.<BR/><BR/>I would have to add the word 'tired' to 'aware and cautious' - because being human is exhausting.<BR/><BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-49601437234801407842009-01-25T08:24:00.000-05:002009-01-25T08:24:00.000-05:00Dick:I'm actually coming a bit late to this sense ...Dick:<BR/>I'm actually coming a bit late to this sense of empowerment. With three sons in their twenties, I am no spring chicken!<BR/><BR/>Oreneta:<BR/>I got a little personal with this post (more so than usual). Hope the wisdom sticks.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-6951440728582256222009-01-25T04:40:00.000-05:002009-01-25T04:40:00.000-05:00Sounds like wisdom to me.....Good luck with it all...Sounds like wisdom to me.....<BR/><BR/>Good luck with it all, we're thinking of you....It can't be easy though.orenetahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616103982088424715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-91472490305163948782009-01-25T02:58:00.000-05:002009-01-25T02:58:00.000-05:00Circumspection and objectivity are gifts of age. Y...Circumspection and objectivity are gifts of age. Your picture suggests that there's a fair span of years between us, Beth, so if they're coming early, you're empowered!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-64576120095806072282009-01-24T16:50:00.000-05:002009-01-24T16:50:00.000-05:00msb:You never could...sherry:"Fierce in your ...msb:<BR/>You never could...<BR/><BR/>sherry:<BR/>"Fierce in your own reality." I love that. Such a good fit.<BR/><BR/>beth:<BR/>I (we) can't give up the dreaming! (May all yours come true.)<BR/><BR/>gladys:<BR/>I'm going to use that, "Who would I be without this thought?" and add to it, "And how would I feel without that thought/belief?"<BR/>Don't need Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110235078325434919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-71574043508391982532009-01-24T15:48:00.000-05:002009-01-24T15:48:00.000-05:00Wow, it's often hard to be that kind of honest wit...Wow, it's often hard to be that kind of honest with yourself. But, to try to temper all that, it sounds like you have been through an awful lot of late, including a lot of loss. Grief is a natural process if you let it run. Try not to be any harder on yourself than you already have been. One day (maybe not today) things will turn around, maybe slowly or maybe abruptly and you will then be The Bodhi Chicklethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16516287894431519640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-50027379450430477252009-01-24T15:36:00.000-05:002009-01-24T15:36:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.contemporary themeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810901901438064698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-35149103792001445642009-01-24T14:13:00.000-05:002009-01-24T14:13:00.000-05:00To loosely quote Byron Katie "There is no illusion...To loosely quote Byron Katie "There is no illusions only our perceptions. If you change the way you think you change your life."<BR/><BR/>It is a very hard lesson to learn to seek the truth in what we believe. Ask yourself "Is it true?" "Is it REALLY true?" Then "Who would I be without that thought?" Finally turn your thought around. It is the most liberating in the world when you get rid Gladyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04871936987053625828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-35045917890166534342009-01-24T13:03:00.000-05:002009-01-24T13:03:00.000-05:00I like that you are aware and more cautious....we ...I like that you are aware and more cautious....we should all be that way. and there's nothing wrong with day dreams...sometimes they are what gets you through the day...or night.Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06245554563405436101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-19301620387763456832009-01-24T11:02:00.000-05:002009-01-24T11:02:00.000-05:00"simply more aware and cautious" -- yes, this is a..."simply more aware and cautious" -- yes, this is a good way to be. But it's more than that and never be so cautious as to stop enjoying, stop appreciating things for what they are in "the moment". <BR/><BR/>Growth and learning, desiring change and welcoming it when it arrives and not slamming the door in it's face...evolution.<BR/><BR/>I live in expectation...I expect that people will do what Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271529958269038071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36200388.post-47720442385179713212009-01-24T10:58:00.000-05:002009-01-24T10:58:00.000-05:00I believe that you have always "seen" more than yo...I believe that you have always "seen" more than you give yourself credit for. Now your eyes are just a little more open. We will continue to have our dreams and that is good. There is nothing wrong with being cautious (protecting yourself) but as "someone" once told me - keep searching for the illusive dream of happiness. We can't give up.<BR/>A comment from one of those wonderful and "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com